OK, So the second wife and I were getting divorced. We had broken up around Christmas, although we both still lived in the same house. She took over the spare bedroom, and I was in the master. The kids had their room. We made sure to never fight around them, not that we fought all that much. It was mostly quiet arguments, if anything. We were mutually out of love, so things went pretty smooth.
I decided there was no reason to keep myself unhappy if she was going to have someone else, so I started getting back out on the internet and clubs. I went through some dating sites, and that was pretty useless… I started to get more involved with the art scene on DeviantArt. I had posted a bunch of stuff there previously, but I stared to look for ways to distract myself. One night, I was on DA and checking out artists near me. They allow you to put your coordinates in and see who is in your area. . I had thought of finding another photographer near me and seeing if they wanted to go out shooting.
Browsing around the profiles, I caught sight of a picture I recognized. It was the same girl I had seen on one of the dating sites. I sent her a note.. I just looked and I still have it:
K,
So, do you believe in fate? Or at least very unusual circumstance? I was looking through my ‘neighbors’ in DA, and while checking out your gallery, recognized the tattoo pic from your scraps. I had seen it in a ******add.
Funny part is that I was actually going to respond to your add, but I have been getting discouraged at the lack of response. You must get flooded with replies.
Anyhow, if you are still tattooing, or want to get started again, I might have some work for you.
Or, if all the responses have been jerks and you just want to hang out. Let me know. Dinner is on me in any case.”
Man, I was a charmer back then.. She responded:
wow.
my entire life is one big unusual circumstance, haha. you’re right: i do get flooded with responses, and it gets very discouraging on this end as well.
i have to say that i am extremely interested in meeting you, or at least getting to know you. my tattooing career is currently on hold because of school, and because it’s extremely expensive and i rarely ever do it for profit. hanging out does sound rather nice, though, as i haven’t gotten out in a while.
thank you for taking the time to read my ad, by the way– very few, i noticed, have the patience to read and yet the audacity to respond with messages that read something like “hey, hit me up if u lookin for wurk.”
anyway, it was pleasant meeting you. let me know what’s going on in your life, and we’ll see if we can set up a time to talk and/or meet. take it easy til then.
Jackie!
I responded.. she responded.. so forth. Eventually I called her and we went out to a gallery night. She was wearing a bustier style Japanese print top, black pants, and looked fantastic. The evening went very well, and a relationship started.
Its been tough for both of us, as well as absolutely wonderful. We have both had to live through each others baggage and problems for the last two years. Its been entirely worth it, and has been the most rewarding relationship I have ever been involved in.
There is more to tell.. but this post is long enough… 